Why adults have affairs?
Chat about a loaded topic that no one wants to chat about, that’s it. Amusing thing, extramarital affairs have been going on ever since ancient times. Extramarital relationships can be filled with evils, cause sadness, and other harms. Also you have to wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and sincerety issue, money, age difference, faith background, guilt, and on and on. I anticipate there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the purpose of this article I will classify an affair as a long term, maybe months long relationship of a sexual nature between two individuals of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, discreet dating for married.
Why do married people have affairs? There are as many answers as there are men seeking an affair. I am sure mainly though it is just the human condition, the need for care, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and appreciated. Here are a few reasons I have run across.
Naturally we as humans are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasing and exciting, and sex makes us escape the world for a brief period of time. This ecstasy exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Somebody can switch the wish on and off, some are good at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and elder, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the stimulation of the hunt. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another being, for some it is the longing to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the whole romance thing. These needs and yearnings can be so strong they rise above the taboos people has erected against extramarital affairs. For many individuals the yearnings will overcome their worries and make them risk the rage of not only their family, but society also. So why, what is the catalyst?
Sex Addicts, probably some of us are. Sex is extremely good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically driven sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not injure your relatives or anyone else? You will need to reduce the hazard you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is beneficial to everybody, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the major cluster, huge truly. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, apart from they are happy in the manner they exist, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Then there are the kids to consider. Your finances are so entwined. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to be together besides love and sex.
Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical reasons that prevent them implementing the sex performance, at least not with their spouse. An extra-marital affair occasionally solves the difficulty while keeping the marriage intact.
Avoidance, sorrowfully this is a ordinary cause I fear. One or the other, frequently the guy is sexually neglecting his lady for a tones of reasons. As a man I really appreciate you guys neglecting your wives and making them accessible to us guys of romance, making them “milfs” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not only neglectful, but evil.
Something is just omitted in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Perhaps its romance that is missing, maybe it is a lack of love, could be caring is gone, maybe it is the intimacy, could be neglect. Could be we have simply grown distantly, our common concerns diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is opposed to of what you want. Maybe I simply don’t know what I want from the marriage anymore. Could be, just maybe I miss that sensation that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The number one reason people give is, they seek the excitement that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to run away, for economic gain, for vengeance and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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